How to succeed in your life

The ability to face and overcome the challenges of life is the number one adjective in Personal successful. If you lack the ability to withstand bravely claim, any steps taken in the way of success become meaningless.There are two types of human beings, victors and victims. Victors do not allow parking of anything in the way of their achievements. No obstacle they can not overcome. They see life's challenges as opportunities to improve themselves and their means to work on achievement. Victors realize that without the challenges of life there would be no opportunities for growth and development.Victims on the other side wasted a lot of time thinking about the difficulties that face them. Do not consider challenges, opportunities for improvement, but as reasons to accept failure. When faced with this person any challenge in life is found happily take the easiest way is the lack of resistance and surrender. And even resists any change that might occur in his life and is considered the challenges of life a reason for the withdrawal and submission. That life is not something given to those who do not deserve. Accept the idea that life will not stop for a challenge and you will face a new challenge every day must face and rise above it. The greater the success of increased challenges they face.How to succeed in your life:The first step: Know your intentions and select the target:Know what you want to achieve and why achievement worth the work and effort and time and sacrifice necessary for success. Know exactly who welcomes limit access to him to achieve a goal. You must change your way of thinking and outlook to yourself to continue to achieve your goals. If you in أعماقك not feel confident in your abilities to overcome this success because it will be a reason for failure.Step Two: Be realistic:See for your project from all sides and measure the risk to reward ratio. Be realistic and values ​​of the potential success of the crises and difficulties that may accompany the beginning of any project (investments, liabilities, or structural construction). Put all that in mind, select your goal. When any crises or setbacks see it as part of the growth process and not as an obstacle make you retreat and abandon your primary goal and withdraw. Designed to create opportunities within the setbacks and to resolve any problem to remove the obstacles. That will make you discover the capabilities were not known to exist inside you.Step Three: Know the strengths and weaknesses of your personality:Use your strength citizen and grew and weaknesses powers or tried to get rid of them using your will and desire to succeed. The balance between what is owned by the capabilities and qualities to become someone able to deliver. As an example if you find it difficult to solve the problem of listening to others, you learn to look at others' comments and like Trivia resolved. Listen concentration for who, what, when, where, why in what you hear. Focused attentively how to solve the problem of not listening attentively following this approach, which is trying to find answers to previous questions on what you hear.Step Four: Learn how to be more effective:Ie to become a continuous, negotiator able to solve problems, and an important player in the community. Select need your community and I'm working on finding ways to achieve them. Do not be a mere spectator in your team, your community, your family, etc.. Think of the greatest benefit to the greatest number of people and work to achieve them.Step Five: Be positive:Work to solve problems and find appropriate solutions and continuing each crisis. Think about results and not obstacles. Grew inside your mind the ability to scale the challenges and not overdoing it. The outlook for both Minimize challenges or zooming will affect directly on your self-confidence. The mind is the one who grows up or getting smaller, so it must be developed think it's positive and convince yourself that any problem can be solved with patience and focus and proper mindset. When you have self-confidence to the challenges will consider the positive side and will work to address them.Step Six: inside you grew a passion to reach the results:I love the benefits and the process of achieving the same results. Plant inside you a feeling of happiness and success with every achievement achieve your goals. Happy feeling inadequate, Mark sense of satisfaction of accomplishment achieved and defended a catalyst for the further step and the next stage of success. Keep having this feeling to achieve complete success in your life.Qualities that will help you succeed:

    Believe in what you do: It's very important to believe in what you're doing. Initially be easy for you focus on what ستربحه to from behind the goal. With the passage of time, forget the excitement that you feel and fade torch that was inside. To avoid so make sure you maintain your vision to achieve the objective and results clear in your mind. Write your goal and implementation process step by step and, if possible, attach a diagram and pictures even motivate you whenever I saw her and see a clear goal in front of your eye with each step are they remain the excitement and motivation within you to complete success.

    Trust: trust in the beginning may be strong but with the passage of time and the emergence of the obstacles or problems may fade something in something. If this happens Remind yourself that you have the ability to achieve the goal. Renewed your design and adjourned fear and the forces of self-confidence and your insistence on success.

    Design: faith بهدفك and your ability to achieve is a good start, but you'll also be determined to turn it into reality. Keep your design strong برفضك the submission of the obstacles and problems and remind yourself of the importance of the target you. The design is the torch that will remain in your mind and heart to Tqoak and encourages you to meet the challenges and achieve the goal.

    Motivation: to remain a catalyst can also be considered as a challenge, especially with the passage of time and fading of excitement and enthusiasm for the goal and feeling turned into just a sense that what you do just plain work. The strength of feeling is incentive Once the decision is simple existence. Find What keeps you motivated to complement the way to achieve the goal. Read articles or books that talk about it, spoke with the successful and hear their success stories and what they did in order to reach their current status, moved away from the losers or desperate.Perception: Be aware and conscious of what is going on inside your head. If you find there is something or act does not achieve your goal or delay it, looking at the roots of the problem and its causes quickly until you return to the correct path and complement the road to success in your life.

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How to Succeed in your career

Did you try to make light of the sun through the lens performs aggregated to light; to fall on the white paper?If you have not tried it before, let me describe to you the scene.Simply become the light of the sun, the star, like a point or at most a small circle on the white of the paper,If those lens combined with high strength in the assembly and focus, they can burn the paper or occur where a hole at least!


You might say and what the relationship of my success to those bundled lens and the light of the sun, and those physical experiences, and complex scientific theories?!This may seem at first glance is true, but there is a close relationship between them.The sun in the previous example as a human energies and capabilities ..The bundled lens is the mind's ability to focus ..The hole that occurred in the white paper is a product-minded focus on those energies and investment potential.
The answer to the perplexing questions
Sometimes the human mind stands bewildered; in order to answer some puzzling questions,Like to ask the same of us says:Why be Anjaza for objectives Btia?Or maybe ask another:I've made a lot of effort in studying, but I do not realize highly, why?!Or marvel at the third says:I work long hours, and my colleague at work, working less to me, but it accomplished its goals more quickly and accurately to me, why?!The above is not only simple examples of a torrent of questions and a flood of question marks, and that we can answer them that the main reason is: weakness or maybe lost focus.

The problem is not in the device

Zig Ziegler tells in his book (the success of the starters) for a personal position happened to him and says:(When I participate in a seminar small usually use films transparent means of clarification, and do not always do I adjust the focus of the monitor when I view the first image, and often pretend that I did not notice the problem, and so I continue my conversation with the crowd for several minutes, then I monitor all those individuals who They point their fingers to the device to draw your my attention to the problem,At this point, I say to the fans:In fact, there is no problem in the device itself, just there because it needs to adjust, and likewise the lives of many people such a device, do not simply need only to adjust the focus, surely these people are going in dozens of different directions; As a result, they rarely achieve their goals Home life).
As well as the Dear reader / dear readerThe problem is not the lack of capacities and capabilities; the love of God Almighty by each and every one of us, lies the biggest challenge to us, to adjust the focus on the objectives of life, rather than dispersed among the different tasks of life.
Road to genius
(Genius is the ability to focus on one thing at a time)Thus Zig Ziegler describes the main pillar of genius,Namely, the power of focus, here's the story of a genius of geniuses of the modern era, a world-famous Newton ..
It is a story shows you how to focus while he was doing the work, and how it was his ship to shore genius.


In one day, and while he is busy solving one of the complex scientific problems, Newton forgot to have his breakfast, did not want his wife to go in observance scientific, but at the same time it was concerned by a hungry work.I looked wife often while came to her seller some fresh eggs; was Newton's fond of eating such eggs boiled, but was make it himself on a small stove in a room office, فناولته eggs, and reached out to him in hours and said not to leave the eggs in the water while boiling more than three minutes , and left the room so as not to overburden the world's glory.
But when she returned to take the vessel, including the remains and found the eggs are still in the hands of Newton, also found time soaked in a pot of water boiling long ..And, of course, were not such an exceptional incident in the life of Newton, but tells about his focus a lot of stories and anecdotes.
Obstacles on the road
If the focus is the path to success and genius, but without access to the obstacles, weaken the concentration of one of us and make his mind distracted, distracted, and perhaps for reasons of which the most important are:1 - There is an urgent problem haunt us, the problem may be personal, family or emotional or financial Oajtmaih.2 - anticipating is scary and busy.3 - suffering from a health problem.4 - the occurrence of command leads to intense joy.5 - get used to the live prisoners fantasies and unrealistic fantasies and hung up.6 - To be in the ocean where you live or work in it occupies thought; leads to discomfort, examples include:Arrangement is not appropriate and spam to your room, or the intensity of the noise in your workplace or study.



How can ....?!And the way to overcome those obstacles, and possessing the power of focus needs to be the keys three; to decode the treasure concentration, and these keys are:First Mark your surrounding environment make you focus:1. Contact the place where you sit; Whenever the place was tidy, it was supported by the concentration.2. During a conversation with your colleagues, Mark interest and attention focused on the understanding of what they are saying, not make what Ilbssouna or carry it with them distract your mind.3. Prepare all you need to accomplish your tasks of tools and machinery before starting them; you in order to bring these tools work disperses the center of attention, and weakens the focus.Secondly Mark your health better:There is wisdom says (a healthy mind in a healthy body), and therefore; Here are some suggestions for better health, and a stronger focus:1. If you feel tired stopped on her tasks, and take a share of the relaxation, and close your eyes, take a deep breath several times, then go back to what you are doing then.2. If you feel sluggish, فجدد ventilation in your site, and move a little bit of your place, or March some light exercise for a few minutes.3. Baader treat what ails health problems, and if you suffer from a problem, do not overpay in a hurry, and Atatha thinking bigger than its size.4. Give yourself a sufficient amount of rest before you start thinking and work practice.5. Do not start thinking about important issues immediately after eating, nor during starvation and excessive thirst.
Third trained to focus:1. Promises to yourself to live for حظتك, and limit yourself only with where you are, and try to forget Otttanasy all else.2. Counting numbers in descending order of 100 to one, one by one, like this: 100, 99, 98, etc..Then counted again two by two, like this: 100, 98, 96, 94, ... etc..Then counted again three three, so: 100, 97, 94, 91, etc..Then counted again four four, so: 100, 96, 92, etc..Then counted again five five, so: 100, 95, 90, ... etc..Then counted again six six, thus: 100, 94, 88, etc..Then counted again by sevens, thus: 100, 93, 86, etc..Then counted again eight eight, so: 100, 92, 84, ... etc..Then counted again nine nine, thus: 100, 91, 82, etc..Repeat this exercise once a day for at least a month.
3. Do the following training· Focused on a specific image for a relatively long period, focused in their colors and shapes, size, and everything in it.· Close your eyes, and try to remember everything about this photo.· Open your eyes, and see how much I was able to get the details in your mind.
FinallyIf success and excellence in life depends not only on mental abilities impressive, nor on the effort generous, but we have the power of mastering those capabilities and draws those efforts, and this power is the power to focus on goals, and strive to achieve as quickly and at the best efficiency.And always remember the words of the famous English novelist Charles Dickens, which prescribe you prescription success and says:(I have never been to realize success without habits precision and order, diligence and determination to focus on one work each time

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I'm in my 30's and I Don't Want to Waste Time With the Wrong Men. How Soon Should I Find Out If He's Serious About Marriage and Kids?

Hi Evan,My friends and I are all in the range of early to mid-to somewhat late 30's and this is a very difficult time to find "the one". When I was in my 20's, I never worried about having to find out if my date / bf wanted kids or where he wanted to live or if we have the same ideas about money and spending. We would spend 2 + years together (not worrying about future or marriage) and then break up if we got sick of each other or fell out of love.But now, let's be realistic, how long do we really have to waste? I am almost 33. If I spent 2 years with someone and it didn't work out, I would then be 35, and I want kids!So, at this age, how soon is it okay to have a talk about what we want in life ... 1st, 2nd, 3rd date? What if a guy that is amazing says he is unsure he wants kids and I know I want them? I drop him, right? If a guy in his mid 30's thinks it is ok to date for 2 years and see if it is right, then my instinct is to let him go. By the same token, I feel that it is appropriate to KNOW by 6 months if this person is the one or not. Is this correct? Let me remind you that I'm not talking about people in their 20's who enter into 5-year relationships. My friends and I want to be smart. I just ended a relationship with a guy after 6 months who told me he had serious doubts that I was the one.How long until you should know (at this age) and how long until you should be planning to get engaged / married? I know people that get engaged after 6-8 months because they just know. I do NOT want to waste time. I am still considered young, but one long-term relationship that goes nowhere and I am 1-2 years older! If a guy tells me he wants to date for 2 years, then if we are right, he wants to get married, but then travel for a year before thinking about having kids, shouldn't I run? I hope all of this makes sense. All of my close single girlfriends are in the same boat. We are all in the same age range and try to live by the "rules" of not bringing up marriage and kids and future goals or when we want those things. But shouldn't we talk about that early on, in order to know we are on the same page? I want to date someone that is also looking for "the one" and knows that he wants it soon, just as I do.Thanks so much, SKDear SK,I couldn't be more sympathetic to you. Now that I'm almost 37, most of my friends are in this 35-40 range, and there's no doubt of the psychological toll that being single takes on them. The window to have kids is a narrow one, and, for that reason, it makes everything feel urgent.

    The window to have kids is a narrow one, and, for that reason, it makes everything feel urgent.I'm confident that just about anyone in your position would feel the exact same as you do. But, like an employee who has to grin and bear it when he's got to work overtime, you have to figure out a way to smile, breathe deeply, and not get overwhelmed by your feelings. First, let's try an exercise. Pretend you're a guy for a second.Now reread your letter. I'll wait.

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Dating And Divorce: Is It 'Survival Of The Sluttiest'?

In a Huffington Post article, New York comedian Juliet Jeske lamented that after the end of a nine-year relationship, she no longer knows how to date. She describes her experiences this way:
“As a person who is by nature very direct and to the point, dating is a mystery trapped in a puzzle, tucked in a fireproof safe thrown down a mineshaft. I just can’t figure it out.”
She goes on to say that “It is just sort of expected by many that you start the physical part of the relationship first, and then see if either partner wants to continue after the fact, sort of a try before you buy situation. Sex before emotional attachment, sex before any form of relationship, sex before everything.”
Jeske is complaining specifically about dating in New York, but I think this phenomenon is universal. I mean, how many times have I said that “men look for sex and find love and women look for love and find sex”? What Jeske doesn’t seem to get is that it’s not an either/or.
You don’t have to sleep with a guy on Date 2 just because some other woman will. That other woman is most likely being used and is wondering why all the guys she sleeps with never amount to anything.
What women DO need to understand is that men are driven by attraction, sex and testosterone. And if you think it’s ridiculous that he’s going to want to have a little foreplay before you’re in a relationship, you’re going to be perpetually frustrated by reality.
Instead of complaining that men are interested in sex (duh), how about you figure out a way to better connect with him outside the bedroom during those first few formative weeks/months? And if all he wants is sex, just ditch him. It ain’t that hard.
Read the article here and let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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My Fiancé Has Money and Treats Me Well, But He's Soooo Cheap! What Should I Do?

1. My Fiancé Has Money and Treats Me Well, But He’s Soooo Cheap! What Should I Do?
2. Where Do You Draw The Line When Your Girlfriend Asks For Money?
3. How Much Money is Love Worth?
4. Do Women Look Down on Men Who Earn Less Than They Do?
5. What’s the Difference Between Settling and Compromising?

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